Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Courtesy of typhoon Pedring: the Philippine submarine!

I hope I don’t ruffle anyone’s feathers by making light of the conditions up in Manila right now, thanks to typhoon Pedring, but this is way too funny (and sad, in a way) to pass up.

Kidding aside, my thoughts and prayers go out to those who are facing difficulties because of yet another mega-storm hitting Luzon.  I hope my many relatives who live in those parts are ok.

Enhance your marriage and family with THE STORY OF US

In one previous blog post regarding me and my wife’s 12th anniversary, I stated that one of the key principles that helped us enhance our marriage and family life was to attend marriage and parenting retreats and seminars.  Lo and behold, my Cagayan de Oro-based friends; here comes a couples retreat for you, The Story of Us.

Whether if your marriage is rock solid, or it’s crumbling at the seams, I would strongly recommend attending couples retreats like these.  It’s kinda funny that we go though years and years of school to learn a trade, but we don’t have much when it comes to being taught how excellently maintain the most basic of social structures, the family. 

Now let’s face it, marriage has been greatly under attack in modern times.  In America, half the marriages are failing.  Here on these Philippine shores, even if divorce is not legal, way too many of my friends and loved ones have fallen victim to failed marriages as well.  I’ve seen it so many times that I now find great folly in having an available marriage-enhancing opportunity like The Story of Us and not taking it.

Some people I invite say that events like these are too expensive (The Story of Us will cost each couple P4,500-5,000 for food, venue, and materials), but really, how much is your marriage worth?  One couple, who used to mentor my wife and I for a short while, were on the verge of separation until they were dragged into a similar event.  I have a feeling that my wife and I would have a much rockier marriage if we didn’t attend one months into our union.

So here’s more info:

Due to the past CCF events being so well attended, as well as venue restraints, there will be two batches of The Story Of Us.  The first batch is on the weekend of Nov. 5 & 6, 2011; the second is on Dec. 3 & 4Each batch is limited to 41 couples only.  You’d want to sign up right away, because, as I said, CCF’s marriage and parenting events are known to be excellent, and therefore garner big draws; and not to mention that attendees from the other CCF churches in Manolo, Illigan, Malaybalay, and Valencia will also be included.  The sooner you sign up, the better.

Venues for The Story Of Us are the Saddle Ridge Camp and the beautiful Mountain Pines Place in Dahilayan, Manolo Fortich, Bukidnon.  Price is 4,500 per couple w/o transportation, 5,000 with transpo from CDO to Dahilayan and back.

For details contact:

Christ’s Commission Fellowship – Cagayan de Oro
Papa Juanito’s Square, Limketkai Drive
857-3000 (PLDT/Philcom)
09175976574 (globe)
09228223236 (sun)
09209386766 (smart)   

Make the investment to enhance your marriage and family life, attend The Story Of Us.  I will definitely see you there.

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Tuesday, September 27, 2011

The 12 Commandments For Parents (who wish to turn their children into juvenile delinquents)

The following Twelve Rules For Parents (who wish to turn their children into juvenile delinquents) have been drawn by the Police Department of Houston, Texas and circulated in leaflet form.  You may find them interesting (note that I made some very small changes), and let’s just say that I hope this is not your parenting style:

1.    Begin at infancy to give the child everything he wants.  In this way, he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.  

2.    When he picks up bad words as a little child, laugh at him.  This will make him think he is cute.

3.    Never give him any spiritual training.  Wait until he is 21 and then let him decide for himself. 

4.    Avoid the use of the word “wrong”.  It may develop a guilt complex.  This will condition him to believe later, when he is arrested for stealing the car, that society is against him and he is persecuted.

5.    Pick up everything he leaves lying around – books, shoes, clothes.   Do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility to others. 

6.    Let him read any printed matter he can get his hands on.  Be careful that the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized, but let his mind feast on garbage. 

7.    Quarrel frequently in the presence of the children.  In this way, they will not be too shocked when their own home is broken up later. 

8.    Give the child all the spending money he wants.  Never let him earn his own.  Why should he have things as though he had to work hard for them?  

9.    Satisfy his every craving for food, drink, and comfort.  See that every sensual desire is gratified.  Denial may lead to harmful frustration.   

10.    Take his part against neighbors, teachers, policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child.

11.    When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, “I never could do anything with him.”

12.     Prepare for the life of grief.  You will likely have it.

Now I’ll segue to the material where I got this from, the upcoming 3rd lesson of our PARENTING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE study that my young couples group has been taking up every Friday night for the past month. 

The title for this session is HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY, which is very apt for times like these where it seems so hard to do so.  It’s a great session with so much great content that we as parents oh so need.

Here’s the session outline, in case you’re interested to find out more:

I.    The Purpose of Discipline

II.    The Basics of Discipline

III.    What do you discipline your child for?

IV.    How to Discipline

V.    How to Spank Your Child
(hint: nearly all Filipino parents do it terribly wrong)

VI.    Training Young Ones

VII.    Training Teenagers

Yes, parenting styles vary, and there should be freedom for such variation.  However, the advice/lessons that Peter Tan-Chi gives are a huge help, no matter what parenting style we have.  So, we will know the ins and outs of how to discipline your child this coming Friday, September 30, 2011.  My group meets 7pm at CCF, and we rotate the responsibilities of serving a light dinner to the others. 

There have been many praises for PARENTING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE since we introduced it.  Guests say that it is far, far superior to anything they have encountered in their own communities, and they are so blessed by Peter Tan chi’s life and powerful example.  (Check out testimonies of his children here and here)

Here’s my blog post of Session 2
Here’s my blog post of Session 3

God bless you all.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Showcasing a truly unique high school program: the Montessori curriculum of The Abba’s Orchard Erdkinder

Many of you know I teach at the nearby The Abba’s Orchard school. In case you’re wondering why I haven’t been posting much lately, we just had a manic two weeks of getting the requirements in for the first trimester PSTC’s.

What we do differently in the PSTC’s (Parent Student Teacher Conferences) is that the Erdkinder (Montessori high school) student comes in business attire with a prepared PowerPoint presentation and presents to the parents what he or she has done this past trimester. The kid will also have to own up to any poor scores that were earned, or proudly report to mom and dad that all is well.

Other than finish the grades for my two classes (English Literature and Humanities), I was also tasked to do the short video clip that highlights the goings on of the Erdkinder program throughout the first trimester. This is my first time doing so, and even though it’s not that great, I’m a bit proud of myself.

Well, I have the video below, so enjoy. You’ll see that AOS’s program is quite unique, and I will explain some of what goes on in the next few paragraphs.

Note: many thanks goes out to for the free royalty-free music used in the vid.

Allow me to give some short explanations on some of the unique areas of the video.

The Chores: The Erdkinder program has a strong work component. Every morning, children have to rotate between working in the organic farm (AOS is a farm school), in the boot shed, in the classroom, and in the kitchen (where the kids have to budget, market, cook, and serve the lunch meals for the whole high school community).

Morning Socratic Devotions: After chores, the seniors of the Erdkinder program lead the younger ones in short Bible study/devotions. Can you imagine the discipleship, here? Students leading fellow students in walking the Godly path.

Business Plan Pres. and Occupations Projects. One of the hallmarks of the school is that it presents a micro-economy that simulates the adult world. Students form agricultural businesses and manage them throughout the year (with company names like Pabo-rito, Turkeylicious, Angry Birds, and Chicks To Go, among others). The first big step they have to hurdle is to make and present a business plan presentation in front of their investors (also known as their parents). Impress them enough to get their funds, then off they go to load their animals and then take care of them until slaughter (they also have to convince the parent community to buy their products)

The students find real-life application of academics (English for business letters, math for feed conversion ratio, lots of stuff for science), and it gives the teens a strong sense of belonging and purpose.

The Abba’s Orchard La Granja farm campus is only 10-15 minutes away from Xavier Estates. You can read about some more articles I made of the Erdkinder program here, here, and here.

My kids are now in their preschool and elementary programs, and they are also great. In fact, feel free to avail of their free trial. It won’t hurt, and you’ll likely be glad you did. Just send me an email or a comment.

Saturday, September 17, 2011

The great things about living in Cagayan de Oro, part 2

Another apology for another delay.  The second part of the Great Things About Living in Cagayan de Oro is way overdue.  My apologies, as I have been swamped with work.

Friends, I hope you had a fun and safe Fiesta weekend.  I sure had an eventful one.  Took my three kids and my father-in-law out to a day at the beach on Monday; and on Tuesday my wife and I (with two of my younger ones) spent the day in the nearby mountains to see her best college friend and her boyfriend, who were in town for a few days. 

Yup, I enjoyed the beach one day and the mountains the next; two beautiful, yet so different, natural sceneries.  Such is one of my top reasons why Cagayan de Oro is a great place to live, one of the best places to live, in my opinion. 

So now comes Part 2 of my list on why there’s no place like Cagayan de Oro.  Click here to see the first half of the list, in case you missed it. 

5.  Not susceptible to any major natural disasters.  We hear of earthquakes here, typhoons there, tsunamis over yonder…and we go, “Oh, that’s too bad; we feel for ya, man!”  Thing is, we’re far from the typhoon belt that messes up Luzon on a yearly basis, and we’re also far from any major earthquake fault lines.  We don’t face the big Pacific Ocean either, so I can’t imagine any tsunamis in CDO.

The worst thing that happens here is the occasional flooding from heavy rains, but nothing nearly as intense or as frequent as what Luzon goes through.  

Really, one of my favorite reasons why I love CDO is that it is spared from any major natural disasters.

(2012 update:  Okay, we just had the Sendong tragedy…but these almost never happened.  In fact, we were so caught of guard because these kinds of storms really don’t come our way)

6.  The local food scene.  I can’t get enough of the Vjandep pastel that our city is famous for, and you should try the Slers ham as well.  Both of these are the most famous pasalubongs of the city. 

As for the places to eat, there are lots to choose from.  It may not be as varied as the bigger cities (I still wait for the day when we get Bros. Burger, Dairy Queen, Cinnabon, or Krispy Kreme in CDO), but we have lots of local fare for your dining pleasure.

Probably my favorite place to eat in Cagayan de Oro, Bourbon St. Bistro
There’s so much to choose from.  My favourite local restaurants are Bourbon St. Bistro, The Xavier Sports and Country Club, Sentro 1850, Bigby’s, and Thai Me Up.  You can also try the local seaside restaurants with the great view of the ocean, such Panagatan, and its neighbor, Tabing Dagat.  For barbeque, I love Bacolod Inasal (their chicken bbq) and Butcher’s Best (their pork bbq). 

That’s just the tip of the iceberg of good eats here in this city.  If you have more recommendations, please feel free to comment!

7.  A great place to raise a family.  Actually, this depends.  If money is not a big factor and you can afford to live well, then Cagayan de Oro has some of the best options in this whole country.

Take schools for example.  CDO has some of the best schools in the country, and students from all over Mindanao flock to this city to study.  Students from many schools here do well in national competitions, and Xavier University consistently lands in the top 10 universities in the Philippines.

The Abba’s Orchard, La Granja campus
Special mention, and I know I’ll seem very biased here, is the school I work for, The Abba’s Orchard.  Imagine, it’s the only school in the whole Asia-Pacific region that can boast of having the full Montessori curriculum.  In fact, its high school program is only one of the handful of its kind in the whole world.  My kids are products of their fantastic pre-elementary and elementary programs, and our friends and relatives are often impressed by how smart, vibrant, and confident they’re turning out to be.

Then there’s a place to live.  I’m talkin’ uptown CDO, like Xavier Estates, Pueblo de Oro Golf Estates, and the other ones that are popping up all over the place (such as Alegria Hills and Teakwood Hills). 

Again, this doesn’t apply to everyone, only for the ones that can afford it.  However, in the next several years, many OFWs and balikbayans (not to mention the occasional love-struck expat) will come back to the Philippines to retire.  If I were them and was faced with a decision to choose between uptown Cagayan de Oro or Manila or some Philippine city to build my dream house and retire, I’d choose uptown CDO in a heartbeat.  Xavier Estates, in particular, has fantastic security and a lovely setting, plus a wonderful country club to boot.

And there’s no sign of the real estate development slowing down either.  New subdivisions are being built left and right.  Condo units are being built uptown as well.  Xavier Estates will open up a new Phase 5 this year (hey, if you’re interested, my wife is an agent…she’ll hook you up real nice). 

8.  The attractions.  When my family first settled here 15 years ago, this place was a sleepy provincial town without much to do.  Now, there are attractions within the city or in close proximity to it.  I’m gonna list the tourist attractions the city is famous for:

White water rafting.  CDO is known as the white water rafting capital of the Philippines.  Tourists say that their experience with the rapids here is the best in the country, bar none.

Zipzone Adventure Park Just two hours away is Asia’s longest zip line, nearly a full kilometer long.  If there’s a place where you wanna really experience R Kelly’s song, I Believe I can Fly, it’s in Zip Zone.  Then they also have an ATV course, Zorb, horseback riding, and a very well equipped nature park with a tree top adventure for the kiddos. 

Mapawa Nature Park.  This is the quintessential camping place in the city.  It also has horseback riding, rappelling, river trekking, and a great horseback riding course where you can go up to the top of a hill and see a panoramic view of the whole city.

My daughter, Mesoo loves the slides
Xavier Sports and Country Club.  The best place to swim in the city, but you need to be a guest of one of the club’s members to do so.  If you’re lucky enough to do that, then get ready for great swimming experience, thanks to its awesome slides.  Enjoy its other attractions (pool tables, bowling, indoor tennis court, basketball court) as well as its great food. 

Duka Bay Resort This is a great beach resort about two hours away.  There are others that are closer, but this is still my family’s favourite.  The beaches are nice and clean, there are comfortable places where you can get your barbeque on, and there are other attractions like scuba diving, glass boat, kayaking, and others.

There are many other attractions in and around CDO.  In fact, click here for a pretty comprehensive list of what to do in CDO itself.

I hope you liked my list of the great things about living in Cagayan de Oro City.  Feel free to give your own two cents in the comments section.  I’m sure I missed a few other reasons why one should choose CDO.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

The day my father died

Today marks two years since the day my father died.  We laid flowers on his grave on the way to bringing my daughter to youth group, and I can tell that a shrapnel of pain of the sudden loss is still in the minds and hearts of my children.  He was a great, great grandpa to them and they miss him dearly.

I was thinking of writing something about what took place on September 10, 2009 and the manic days that followed, but I think nothing can top the blog post that I wrote right after it all happened. 

Since many of you, if not most of you, have not seen that post (the blog, on Multiply, was just a personal journal that was frequented by my friends only), I will re-post it here.

Now here it is, made two years ago.  Enjoy:

It’s been a long, long time since I blogged, and there’s lots of writer’s rust swimming around my head.  But if there’s a reason to express myself through my keyboard again, it’s the topic at hand.  It’s taken me a while to muster up the energy to write even this, but I have to get this off my mind before too much time passes and the moment is gone. 

Before I go on to write about my dad’s death in more detail, I’d like to sincerely thank all of you for sending us your heartfelt condolences.  Whether you visited us at the wake, you sent messages electronically, or simply thought about us, thank you.  A special mention to those who never left our side through this crazy time; those who took up the cudgels of food, refreshments, and other administrative tasks; those who blessed us with song, God-glorifying messages, and testimonies…thank you from the bottom of our hearts.  You know who you are. 

Some of you think it’s the cancer that killed him, but it wasn’t.  In fact, two days before his death he visited his doctor and was given a clean bill of health: no evidence of the disease.  My dad was playing tennis with his buddies, was getting ready to serve, and then just collapsed on the court.  That was it: sudden cardiac death was the official cause. (He used to have a heart condition)

God is so, so good.  It’s as if my dad was so dear to Him that He gave him the best possible way to go out.  Heck, the tennis court was already heaven in my dad’s mind.  Then there’s the quick demise.  Papa was spared the slow death that he was so fearful of, a death that the stage 3 cancer that struck him just 2 years ago made a frightening possibility.  We’d joke around that he’d be the crankiest invalid on the planet if he would die through the cancer.  Even joining the ranks of the senior citizens was not a pleasant thought to papa.  But instead, there was no sign of struggle, no screams of pain, he just fell down and that was the end.  He was a year short of the senior citizen benchmark.   

I’d like to think that God sent the cancer as a heart prep for all of us.  He wouldn’t use the disease to kill my dad, but it was an instrument to make the family, especially papa, aware of our own mortality.  While he has been a true blue believer for quite some time, he really dove into his relationship with the Lord since the disease.  People have noticed his spiritual side bloom.  He has been quite devout since we started worshiping at CCF, but lately he truly was a spiritual leader in the family.  He gave a testimony at our church, boldly proclaiming to all in attendance that God healed him (he even sang the Don Moen song, I am the God that healeth thee).  There was not a dry eye in the building.  Yes, God healed him of the cancer, and then mercifully brought him home Sept. 10, 2009. 

It is interesting to note that I felt a lot less grief than I expected.  In fact, many noticed how we, especially my mom, were holding up quite well.  I remember years ago, as my friend and church mate Ian Kwan lay dying in the emergency room, his mother calmly told the doctor desperately trying to save his life to let him go.  And during his wake and funeral service, I see “Mommy Nene” smile, warmly receive guests, and bear the death of her only son admirably well.  Then I think of another CCF friend, Neil, who said that when his dad died, they were singing praise songs in the hospital.  Now it was our turn to bear the brunt of the passing of someone we so dearly loved.  And the wonderful God who gave both Nene and Neil the strength to bear this great loss was also the God who held us close and gave us this strange, supernatural sense of peace and fortitude that I can’t effectively describe here on this blog. 

Nene mentioned in Ian’s funeral that “it’s easier to let go when you know where he’s going.”  Amen.  One thing that gave us so much strength through this whole ordeal is that we’re so comfortable with where papa is now.  I don’t mean to come off as preachy or religiously haughty, but if the Bible that we believe in is true, people who have Jesus Christ in their lives, as my dad did, are promised Eternal Life the moment they leave their earthly life here. 

“And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. 12 He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life.” (1 John 5:11-12 NIV)

I can’t point this out strong enough. While the grief of losing my dad is quite great, the joy that we have knowing that papa now is in the most privileged place in all creation outweighs and nullifies that grief.  Furthermore, there’s also a future hope that we, who also have been given eternal life, will see him again once it’s our turn to cross that canyon. 

Now I know firsthand how the following verse feels. 

“Death has been swallowed up in victory.  Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?”
(1 Cor 15:54-55 NIV)

We may not have papa around the house anymore, but death was not victorious on September 10, 2009.    My dad is at this very moment in the most enviable place imaginable; and we will see him again one day.  And to that, I say Hallelujah!

RECOMMENDED READING when it comes to grief and loss:

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Now this is interesting: Father sues Facebook over 12-year old daughter’s “explicit” photos

This is not one of the photos, but still…
I was just browsing Yahoo! Philippines a while back and I saw this article that made me nearly fall off my chair.  Apparently, a Northern Ireland father is suing good ol’ Facebook after his 12 year old girl was able to post explicit photos of herself there.

I don’t mean to be harsh, but it’s pretty evident that he’s got some serious parenting issues when his little girl posts those kinds of pictures of herself all over the world’s most popular social network.  And now he wants to get paid–er, I mean he wants to sue Facebook for it?  Wow, now that’s disturbing.  Twisted even.

As you may guess, the article was lit up by comments.  An interesting one suggested that while the Facebook-suing father was at it, he should sue her school for not teaching her properly, the governement for not telling him how to parent his kid right, and his own parents for not teaching him to be a responsible parent, himself.

Well, Yahoo! comments can get pretty mean; and this is quite an outrageous article so I understand the venomous backlash.  (Click here to see the article)

This is one of the reasons why I do what I do here in cyberspace with Lessons Of A Dad.  Children are like marble, and the parents, dads especially, are like the hammer-and-chisel-armed-artist.  We can either make a masterpiece, or we can make a mess.

But, then, is there Parenting 101?  We are taught how to be a doctor, a lawyer, and so on…but a parent?  I don’t remember any classes or courses like that.

That’s why, and I know I’m already making this hard-sell, I’m pretty adamant in inviting you to join me and my group in our PARENTING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE study series.  If you can’t, you join something like it.  We need to be taught how to parent properly.  It doesn’t come automatically. 

This Friday, Sept. 9, we will tackle HOW TO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE YOUR CHILDREN.  I wish the Facebook-suing father could see the great lessons that are to be learned from this session (see my previous blog post for a brief outline on it).

We can’t afford to fail our kids.  Always hunger for the knowledge of raising our kids better.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Be careful with your parenting style, because Children See, Children Do

Here’s a parenting truth that is so obvious, yet many parents are guilty of not realizing it: Children See, Children Do.  In other words, what the little kids see mom and dad do, they will copy.  If they copy long enough, that is what they eventually become. 

Be careful with your parenting style, folks, because all parents influence their children.  The issue is, are we influencing them positively or negatively?  Below is a video that very powerfully shows how strong our influence as parents can be.

“I’m gonna be just like my daddy!”
It’s unfortunate that some parents have the “do-what-I-say-not-what-I-do” parenting style.  They say “don’t smoke” or “respect women” or “cussing is bad” and other rhetoric; but here they are saying certain words when they are mad, smoke cigarettes themselves, and have some questionable magazines at home.  Hmmm.

But, hey, I am sometimes guilty of this, too.  I’m kind of a messy person, yet I tell my kids to keep their rooms clean as much as possible.  So do they follow what I say or what I do?  Well, let’s just say that when you come over my house, stay downstairs.

This Friday, September 8, 2011, at CCF, my young couples group will tackle the 2nd session of PARENTING THAT MAKES A DIFFERENCE, titled: HOW TO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE YOUR CHILDREN. 

Our first session was fantastic, and our group discussions that evening were some of the most engaging and animated in our long history of engaging and animated discussions.  I’m sure this coming session will be even more so.

The foreword for the workbook goes like this: “This session will give you practical guidelines on how to draw close to your children in order for you to positively influence them.  Maintaining good relationships is the key to influence and so will be the main focus here.”  Sounds good to me.

So how do we positively influence our kids?  Do you want to find out?

Here’s the short answer: the main points of the session we’ll take up this Friday.  Of course, there are LOTS of points within these main points, but since most of you can’t attend, this anemic list will have to do:

1.  Good MODELING.  You have to be the person that you want them to become.  I’m not talking about perfection, because that’s impossible.  I’m talking about authenticity.

Philippians 3:17 – “Brethren, join me in following my example, and observe those who walk according to the pattern you have in us.”

2.  Good RELATIONSHIP.  The closer the relationship, the greater the influence.

1 Corinthians 15:33 – “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company corrupts good morals.’”  

3.  TIME.  The more time you spend with the person, the greater is your influence on him/her.

Deuteronomy 6:7 – “And you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.”  

4.  LISTENING.  the more you LISTEN to your children the more you UNDERSTAND them and the more you understand them the more you can INFLUENCE them.

James 1:19-20 – “This you know, my beloved brethren. But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.”

5.  POSITIVE words.  Boy oh boy do Pinoy parents have a problem with this one.  But the truth is, words impact lives.

Proverbs 18:21 – “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Ephesians 4:29 – “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need at the moment that it may give grace to those who hear.”  

6.  UNCONDITIONAL love.  Harsh rules do not positively change a person.  Unconditional love does.

Romans 5:8 – “But God demonstrates His love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” 

7.  Expect the BEST. 
What we expect our kids to be, they will live up to it.  If we think they’re stupid, they become stupid.  But if we expect the best from them, they will soar and even demolish our expectations.

Philippians 1:6 – “ For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Now, do you want the long answer?  Well, there’s way too much content in this study to give it to you on this blog.  Not only does the speaker, Peter Tan Chi, tell you WHAT you have to do (the outline above), but he gives you techniques on HOW to make it happen…and I can’t put it here.  The only way you can get my long answer, the answer you deserve, is to…JOIN US!

My wife and I lead a group of about 7 young couples (late 20’s to early 30’s) and we would love to have you aboard.  We learn from each other (in addition to the fantastic material we use), strengthen each other, encourage each other, and become accountable to each other. 

Make this effort to Positively Influence Our Children by joining us.  The consequences of our failure here is too great.  Leave a comment or an email to let me know you’re interested.

Update:  Check out my blog on our 3rd session, which talks about how to discipline your children without shouting.  That blog post also teaches you the right way to spank your child. 

Recommended Reading:

You can also check out other books I recommend for dads and you can also check out the rest of my parenting articles here.

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