Sunday, December 25, 2011

Merry Christmas everyone!

Merry Christmas everyone, from the Lessons Of A Dad (and the rest of the Alado family as well).

Here’s my favorite non-traditional Christmas song by Chris Tomlin (of Indescribable and How Great Is Our God fame). Mom, thanks for buying me his CD for Christmas! It’s a fantastic CD, maybe the best Christmas CD I’ve ever heard.

Indeed, Lord Jesus, we celebrate You today, because You were born so we may have life.

To my brothers and sisters in Cagayan de Oro, here’s another Chris Tomlin song that I’d like to feature here, imploring today’s Celebrant to show us His light in the recent darkness, and to give us strength and hope in that indeed, “greater things are yet to come and greater things are still to be done in this city!”

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Very funny post from a dad blog I subscribe to

I subscribe to many dad blogs and one of these blogs, Single Dad Laughing, made one hilarious post that I’d like to share here.

On his Facebook page he posted this question:  “What is something you’ve found yourself saying to a child that you never thought you would?”

The answers he got back were incredibly funny.  Here are some of my favorites:
  • I won’t always be able to hold your hand while you poop.
  • Your bum probably hurts because you ate too much chocolate.
  • Do not play tug of war with the dog using your teeth.
  • Take the turtle out of your underwear! NOW!
  • You’re gonna have to wear something besides gloves and shoes.
  • Your pee-pee does not need glitter.
  • Sweetie, ‘Alcohol’ isn’t the best name for your new bear…
  • All right. Who wrapped the dog in duct tape?
  • Why are there butt marks on my scanner?
I’m afraid I don’t have anything to contribute here.  Maybe you do?  Check out his post here (there’s many more than what I posted above), which links to his other posts on the same subject, since there’s way too much hilarity for just one post.

Friday, December 23, 2011

All I want for Christmas is you…daddy

Presents are cool.  But dad's company?  Better.
For a while, I was starting to forget that Lessons Of A Dad is primarily a blog about parenting, as I’ve been a bit preoccupied with blogging about Typhoon Sendong’s rampaging of Cagayan de Oro City (if you still haven’t helped, pls do so).  So, I need to shake this off and go back to my usual blogging theme.

Mariah Carey’s All I Want For Christmas Is You has been ringing in my ears for a while now.  Why?  I’ll save that for a later post, but let’s just say that I’ve been hearing the song a LOT lately, and it’s not just in the shopping malls, being among the more popular Christmas songs being played there. 

While the song is obviously about a woman wanting nothing for Christmas but her beau to come back into her arms, I’ve reflected on some parts of the lyrics and I could see the heart of my children as well…my children longing for me.

I don't want a lot for Christmas
There's just one thing I need
I don't care about the presents
Underneath the Christmas tree
I don't need to hang my stocking
There upon the fireplace
Santa Claus won't make me happy
With a toy on Christmas day
I just want you for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true
All I want for Christmas is you

I’m a teacher, and right now I’m on Christmas break along with my kids.  The two weeks prior were very hectic, with lots of all-nighters and hours of overtime at work.  I barely had time for them.  Every morning we’d wake up and then immediately scramble to get to school, and then I’d come home at night and grumpily shoo them off to sleep.  Not a very good performance from this so-called dad blogger.

As soon as the first morning of Christmas break hit, my kids (especially my son) made sure that they got my attention and demanded that we do stuff together.  So now, less than a week into the break we’ve gone to the park and on several “dates” (where I give some fun and undivided quality time with only one child, no spouse or other children allowed). 

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Water rationing, missing persons, free shipping, and more updates in the wake of Typhoon Sendong

Thank you very much for sharing my previous post on Typhoon Sendong on Facebook and others.  I hope people have donated.  If you haven’t donated yet, pls do so by scanning the right margin of this site for the Donate Button.  The people of Cagayan de Oro are surely in dire need.

Free Shipping of relief goods for USA and Canada

If you’re a USA resident and you want to send stuff over, you can have your packed goods for donation picked-up at your residences. Call these numbers for info: 1-800-338-5424 CALIFORNIA, 1-866-377-1192 CHICAGO, 1-800-522-9507 NEW JERSEY, 1-877-983-9686 WASHINGTON STATE

In fact, if you live near an LBC branch, pls note that all LBC branches in the US and Canada will start serving as drop-off centers for your donations to victims of typhoon Sendong.  I think all LBC branches in the Philippines already serve as such.

Water Rationing:

Monday, December 19, 2011

Typhoon Sendong devestates Cagayan de Oro. Here’s how you can help

(Note that the pictures are not mine, but were taken from various news websites)
The eerie thing is: this man used to work for my mom.  His other child is still missing.

Sorry I have been out of the blogsphere for a while.  I'm pretty sure you know why.

To those whose lives have been forever changed by the fury of typhoon Sendong as it tore through Cagayan de Oro, who lost their homes and possessions, who lost family and friends, I offer my sincere condolences and prayers.  

My dear readers, later in this blog I'll show you how you can help the victims of this terrible disaster.

In case you're wondering about us, we are blessed to live uptown (in Xavier Estates) and so we weathered the storm with only the minor inconvenience of having no electricity.  Others were not so lucky.
As of this writing, over 600 people have lost their lives, 800 remain missing, and hundreds upon hundreds more are left homeless as of midnight last Friday night, as flash floods ripped through the lower barangays of Cagayan de Oro, the deluge being so powerful that it easily filled up entire houses in only 5-10 minutes, forcing families to scramble onto their rooftops for survival.  Many, deep in their slumber, never had a chance.

Luckily, all of my friends and loved ones survived; but some of them just barely, losing everything they owned except for the clothes on their backs…yet thankful to escape with their lives.  Here’s a Facebook comment of one of my co-workers:

Thursday, December 15, 2011


If you live in Cagayan de Oro City and you are a teenager or are a parent of one, then you most certainly know how important it is to have the right environment available.  Teens today are bombarded with so much from the internet, music, social media, movies, and even books.  As a parent, you can’t help but be a little concerned for your adolescent. 

Other than (hopefully) your home, do your teens have a place or a community to belong to where they can learn the right lessons in life and learn to filter out the stimuli that is not so beneficial to them? 

I don’t know how you’d like to raise the adolescents in your household, but if you do not have something like that for your teen and you’d love him or her to be a part of one, you may want to clear your schedule for this Saturday afternoon (Dec. 17, 2011).

JZone is a wonderful youth ministry that my church, CCF, is doing.  It has successfully molded many youths into great young men and women (see here and here for a few examples…when JZone was still called T.E.E.N.S.), and this Saturday, they are going to have a huge Christmas party to cap off the year, called MAKE A JOYFUL NOISE.  See the video below for the info:

This Saturday, CCF is surely the place to be if you’re a teen. My 12 year old daughter will invite as many people as she can, so most likely I’ll see you there. CCF is located in Papa Juanito’s Square, right across the street from the Robinson’s Car Park entrance. Let’s all MAKE A JOYFUL NOISE!!

Monday, December 12, 2011

Which We Didn’t Start The Fire video project is better? Vote now!!

If you grew up in the 80’s, I’m sure you’ve heard Billy Joel’s iconic tune, We Didn’t Start The Fire, where the singer rapidly alluded to major events from the year of his birth to when the song was released in 1989. 

I decided to use this song for my Humanities 4 class; where the students grouped together to make their own version of We Didn’t Start The Fire, but this time chronicling what is going on in their current world.  There’s a nearly equal number of girls and boys in the class, and so they decided in teaming up with the same gender, resulting in two videos.  They’re not professional singers like Billy Joel, but they did the best they could.

As a blogging noob, one of the things I want to learn how to do is to create an online poll or survey.  Well, what better way to take that first step than to make a competition between these two student projects?

So, friends, vote in the poll below by answering this question:  Which We Didn’t Start The Fire video project is better?  Vote Now!!!!  Think about both the content (events covered) and the entertainment value when you decide. 

Oh, in case you’re wondering why my senior students look so young, The Philippines has two less years of schooling compared to the US and other parts of the world.  Therefore, the high school seniors here would be the same age as sophomores in America.

Here are the two videos, ladies first:

Now here’s the guys’ entry:

Cast your vote.  Please note that the results of the voting will not affect their grades whatsoever.  In fact, their grades for this project have already been decided, based mainly on their peer group evaluation of each other’s efforts (freeloaders will not be rewarded).

The students begged me to reward the winner of this online gig, and so I will.  Usually, if I give ice cream or other treats, they’re good.  Again, their grades will not be affected…but your vote is still important nonetheless.

Billy Joel’s hit, I hope, is represented well by their efforts.  So, which We Didn’t Start The Fire video project is better?  Cast your vote!  The kids want their ice cream.

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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

A wonderful dad quote from Chris Gardner

During our lesson on leaving a heritage for your children for The Story Of Us retreat, I ran into this wonderful dad quote from Chris Gardner, the rags-to-riches finance guru who grew up not knowing his father and who very nearly lost his son as well, and whose life was made into a movie (The Pursuit of Happyness, starring Will Smith).  Despite now being a renowned author and a very successful businessman, I love how he puts things in perspective.
“When I look back at the journey from homelessness to prosperity, I hold one thing dearer than all else – my commitment to my son. Doing a movie with the top movie star portraying me, doing a book with an editor who’s last book won the Pulitzer Prize – all that stuff is great, but the most important thing that I will have ever done in my life was break the cycle of men who were not there for their children.

Beautiful. Makes me wanna get his books (see below) and watch the movie all over again.  You can find more of my site’s parenting material here.

Chris Gardner’s books:

Parenting authors you may appreciate:

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Thursday, December 1, 2011

My favorite parenting articles, in honor of Lessons Of A Dad being a finalist of the PBA Home and Parenting Category — National Level

Well, hot off the euphoria of winning Philippine Blog Awards’  Best Lifestyle blog for Mindanao for 2011, I just found out that Lessons Of A Dad is a finalist for another award, a national award this time. 

Lessons Of A Dad is one of the finalists of the Home and Parenting Category – National Level.  Very, very cool. 

I'm in great company, too; here are the Finalists:

A Woman Remembers (
Dainty Mom (
Her Fashionality is Motherhood (
Lessons Of A Dad (
My Address is Earth (
My Happy Home (
Pinay Mommy Online (
Proud Mommy of Three (
The Hippie Mum (

To celebrate, allow me to list down my favorite parenting articles for this site.  They give great tips on being a father.  Hope you enjoy them!

Songs that touch a father’s heart…Happy Father’s Day to you all!  This blog entry was made at or near Father’s Day, and it showcases songs that all dads need to hear. 

One way to have your kids follow you is to make parenting fun!  Having problems with the kiddos following orders?  One possible way to solve this problem is to make things more fun!  Make a chore not a chore.

A parenting word about gift giving.  Being the 1st of December, Christmas is just around the corner.  But, do your gifts really benefit those who receive them?

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

A CDO radio station interviews one of my students

Two weeks ago, a student of mine, Florence Velasco (a senior at The Abba’s Orchard Erdkinder) was interviewed in a local radio station here in Cagayan de Oro City.

Florence was one of the participants of the Rotary Youth Week (an event that had students from various schools serve as public officials for a week), where she served as First Councilor. One of the Rotarians, my friend John De Cleene, runs The New J 103.3 FM, the city’s all Christian radio station.

When Mr. De Cleene took note of her great performance in the Rotary Youth Week, especially the final day, and also learned that she’s also a leader in her church’s youth ministry, a radio interview was bound to happen.

And so here it is, a video I made of the interview with (uh oh, proud-teacher-moment) an amazing young woman that I am very proud to call my student.

Monday, November 28, 2011

According to the good fellows at the Philippine Blog Awards, I must be doing something right.

"Victory comes from you, O Lord. May you bless your people."  (Psalm 3:8)

Blessing upon blessings, the guys at the Philippine Blog Awards have decided that Lessons Of A Dad is this year’s best Lifestyle blog for Mindanao!  Woot, woot!!

I was floored when I found out I was one of the finalists for the award, and I’m floored even more now that I was picked.  You know, all I wanted was to bless and challenge readers, especially the dads of the world, to become better parents.  (Ok, ok, and make a little cha-ching with the Adsense and Amazon Associates to boot).

But to be able to actually be a finalist—and win—in a Philippine Blog Awards category for Mindanao?  That was totally, totally unexpected.

Especially this early in the ball game. 

This is what happens when you play chess against Chuck Norris

My student showed me this pic earlier in school.  It made me roar with laughter.  Scroll down to see it…slowly.

Um, you win Mr. Chuck Norris!

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Get your sugar-rush on! Attend Monster Kitchen’s Dessert All You Can

I’m not a huge dessert guy; but when it comes to the sweet stuff, I know what I want and won’t stand for anything less than excellent.  For sure, the good people of Monster Kitchen can consistently deliver the goods, and on December 3, 2011 they’ll give you a rare change to get your sugar-rush on by hosting Dessert All You Can at the popular Thai Me Up Restaurant.

What’s in store for you?  Well, for only P250.00, you can be served an all-you-can-eat supply of all sorts of dessert goodness!  Sweet!!   Cakes, cupcakes, cookies, bars, you name it, you’ll eat it.  All these yummy treats will be lovingly prepared for you by Monster Kitchen’s Fundamentals of Baking and Pastry Arts students.

So save the date (December 3, 2011), save the place (Thai Me Up Restaurant), save the time (2:30-7:00pm) and get your sugar-rush on!  Attend Monster Kitchen’s Dessert All You Can!!  For more info, visit their Facebook page.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Lessons of a Dad’s picks: books for Christian fathers

In my last post, I featured books for Christian teen girls, made after I noticed that Lynn, 11 going on 12, is just about the same height as her mother.  This time around, I’d like to focus on books that will assist my target audience, the fathers, Christian dads in particular. 

Gentlemen, we need all the help we can get, so here’s a list of books for Christian fathers.

I’m dividing this post into three parts, books for:

Parenting in general (one of the books being teen-specific)
Parenting sons
Parenting daughters.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Great books for Christian teen girls

We celebrated my wife’s birthday last week.  As she was walking arm in arm with our eldest daughter, Lynn, a family friend remarked, “Wow Jhean!  She’s just as tall as you are!”

I was behind the ladies when that comment was said, and indeed, Lynn is very close to her mom’s height, and I predict that she will exceed her next year.  Lynn turns 12 in just 2 weeks’ time, and it dawned on me yet again that, before I know it, my sweet little Christian girl will be a bona-fide Christian teen.

I thought to myself that, since Lynn is a bookworm, I need to figure out what great books to get for Christian teen girls…as I’m sure the kiddie books won’t appeal to her anymore. 

Of course, I’m not talking about infatuation-riddled novels about sparkly vampires.  No sir, these would be books that would grow her and inspire her to be the beautiful young woman that she is called to be. 

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Spoiler alert: How BREAKING DAWN ends…

For all of you who can’t wait to see Breaking Dawn in the movies, here’s a spoiler alert: how the film ends.  Enjoy!

Haha!  Go Blade!!  Sorry, guys…I’m just a bit sick of all the sparkly vampire ruckus that’s been floating around lately.  Just had to give a light moment of vindictive humor for the guys.  Big thanks to my cousin, Ray, who posted this gem on Facebook.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

A pleasant surprise: Lessons Of A Dad is among the nominees for the upcoming Philippine Blog Awards for Mindanao 2011.

Well, well, not bad for a noob who could barely navigate through the ins and outs of the blogsphere.  Yesterday, I received a very pleasant surprise:  Lessons Of A Dad is among the nominees for the upcoming Philippine Blog Awards for Mindanao 2011. 

Specifically, I am one of the four nominees for the Lifestyle category.  

Friday, November 18, 2011

Improve communication in marriage with Gary Chapman’s classic book, The Five Love Languages

Husbands and boyfriends of the world, don’t you wish you had the MANSLATER to sort out communication troubles with your leading lady?  (See video below…very funny)

Kidding aside, husbands and wives surely do experience communication problems…and it could drive us crazy!!  Of course, we love our spouses, but the big question is: do we EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATE that love? 

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Congrats Abba’s Orchard for hosting its first Abba’s Orchard Cup!

A pitch with a view!
For two very busy and heart wrenching Saturdays, October 22 and 29, 2011, The Abba's Orchard School hosted its first ever Abba's Orchard Cup.

I say busy, because this is the first time we hosted such an event, and there were manic preparations in store to get things just right.

Heart wrenching because we fielded many of our own teams into the event, and many of them fought hard to get their victories.  Others, even in defeat, treated us to the best and down-to-the-wire tightest matches that we've ever seen.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

A tribute: RIP Heavy D. Thanks for making my teen years so fun.

Lessons Of A Dad is supposed to be a blog site about parenting and family, but I can't let the passing of one of my favorite musical artists slide without me making a tribute.

The hip hop world is in mourning, as legendary rapper Heavy D, one of the giants of the genre (no pun intended) died yesterday, Nov. 8, 2011 at age 44.  There’s no official cause of death, although Vibe says he died of “respiratory issues” whatever that means.  More details of the cause of his demise are sure to come in the next few days.

RIP Heavy D.  Thanks for making my teen years so fun with your smooth rhymes…and such cool dance moves for a big man.  Readers, allow me to honor Heavy and his music by posting some of my favorite videos of his.

Monday, November 7, 2011

A humorous parenting post

This is soooo parenting win!

Here’s some more parenting articles for you, click here.

Friday, November 4, 2011

Quotes for a happy marriage and family

The beautiful Mountain Pines Place
Later on today, I will make the trip to beautiful Mountain Pines Place in Dahilayan, Bukidnon for the Couples’ Retreat that I have advertised on this blog, The Story Of Us, as I will emcee the event.  Please pray for me, guys.  I’ve done quite a bit of emceeing in the past, but it makes me nervous every time.

Well, in honor of this event, below are some beautiful quotes for a happy marriage and family.  Enjoy!

Presenting: death metal vocal exercises…and you thought it wasn’t real singing.

I’m not a big fan of death metal.  I’ve always thought that it was just a bunch of long-haired, overgrown boys screaming “rararararAAAAAAAAAARGH!!” accompanied by banging drums and guitar riffs.  It’s not real singing, and quite non-musical if you as me

However, I guess I have to take that back…because in the video below, you’ll see some actual death metal vocal exercises!  And you thought it wasn’t real singing. Check out the vid.

This is not the first time I was proven wrong.

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Tuesday, November 1, 2011

An ode to my lolo (grandpa) for All Souls Day

It’s November 1, a day where everyone here in the Philippines honors the dearly departed by laying flowers on their graves and hanging around in the cemetery all day.  I thought, growing up in the states, that this was a weird Filipino tradition, until my dad suddenly died and then I started to understand how nice it was to do so (and Oro Gardens having a cute playground for the kids doesn’t hurt, either).

Now Jhean’s maternal grandmother died recently, and she’s now driving all the way to Talisayan with her dad so that they can lay flowers on the stones of her paternal grandparents. 

Jhean is newly grandparent-less, her maternal grandmother being the last of the four.  I’ve been grandparent-less for a while now.  You’ve already seen my blog entry about my dad, now allow me to use this blog, as it’s All Souls Day, to give an ode to my grandfather, who was the last of my grandparents until he passed away three years ago.  Enjoy:

This is one blog that’s pretty difficult to write.  My lolo (Filipino for “grandpa”) Trinidad, the father of my mom, passed away last night, just a few days shy of his 91st birthday.  He was a lion of a man.  He had many skills and was able to not only provide for his kids’ needs, but was able to mold them into successful people.  Every one in my mom’s generation and mine are doing well for themselves, and all the married ones have remained married (I know that just sounded weird, but it seems every family has at least one member who has gone south in these areas, but by God’s grace…and likely lolo’s training, the family has been spared).  Now that’s being a great grandpa. 
Being away for so long, I wasn’t able to spend a lot of time with him, but since he and my lola often visited us in the states, some memories were made.  Easily the most memorable experience was when I had my 2nd lung operation and my parents had to work.  Who nursed a hurting teen back to health?  Lolo.  It was awesome how he fed me and spent time with me.  We’d watch hours of tennis and debate who was better, Andre or Pete (although both of us were Agassi fans).  His great service sure made the post op pain bearable.  I didn’t need my medications that much.
Another great memory was when he bought me a car, then took it for a drive with me at the passenger side.  Being the good American driver, I always followed the lines and stop signs and all that.  But where lolo came from, lines are just for decoration (in fact, he didn’t know they were lines until I screamed it out to him).  So you can imagine an old man driving Filipino style in an American suburb, with me screaming my head off at first then assuming the fetal position later.  Well, let’s just say that lolo would be proud of the way I drive now (I can’t wait to drive my Fil Am friends around…now they’ll be in the fetal position).

Here are some other great memories of my lolo:
  • Me as a little kid (probably Mesoo’s age now) slamming the car door on his hand.  Ouch.
  • Me as a newly minted teen being totally embarrassed that an old man beat me 6-0, only for me to thrash him with the same score in the rematch (was he taking it easy on me?). 
  • The family going up Mt. Baldy, with my dad driving and my lolo in the passenger side.  Me being the impatient kid, I asked the usual “are we there yet?” questions.  My lola then said, “Yes we are.  (pointing to the window) Here’s the Mt. (then pointing to the back of lolo’s head) there’s the baldy”.  That made my day.
  • When I was a little kid, I once asked “Lolo, are you loaded?” (“loaded” being an American figure of speech for having lots of pocket money).  My mom relayed the story one day, and so when lolo came to visit, it was the grandkids (Lynn in particular) who asked “Super lolo, are you loaded?”, much to his amusement.
  • The loaded super lolo treating all the great grandkids to Hong Kong.  The little ones had a fantastic time, but it was the first time for me to see lolo so weak as he trailed behind the rest of us in Ocean Park. 

There were so many others, but that’s all I can think of right now.  Is the family sad?  Am I sad?  Maybe we should be sad because we lost the family patriarch and a dear friend.  But he’s free.  Free from his feeble, nearly 91 year old fleshly body that tired every time he climbed the stairs and limited his walking to a slow crawl.  Free from the irritating tube that fed him for so long.  And best of all, he’s walking down streets of gold, basking in the glorious presence of our Creator.  If anything, that should make us happy.  He’s in the greatest place in all creation, and here I’m stuck in the Philippines.
So goodbye my lolo, my friend.  You weren’t perfect, but I’ve never seen another grandparent measure up to you.  I hope that I’ll be to my children what you were to my mom and her siblings; and I hope I’ll be to my children’s children what you were to me…and those are huge shoes to fill.

Saturday, October 29, 2011

What if there was a Pinoy version of 3 Idiots? Who would play who?

After watching the great Bollywood movie, 3 Idiots with the kids and family for probably the gajillionth time, A peculiar thought popped into my head:

What if there was a Filipino (Pinoy) version of 3 Idiots?  Who would play who?

That would be fun, wouldn’t it?  Who would play Rancho, Raju, Farhan, Virus, Chatur, and the rest of the zany cast?  Feel free to light up my comments section with your thoughts.

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, my apologies (and you have my pity, too…do yourself a favor and buy this wonderful movie right away).  3 Idiots is an Indian comedy made in 2009, starring Aamir Khan, R. Madhavan, and Sharman Joshi as the said three, well, idiots.  The movie broke all opening box office records in India, eventually becoming the highest-grossing Bollywood film of all time.

It’s a lighthearted story about three young college students who are trying to survive their Engineering course, especially the terror-teacher of a dean, nicknamed “Virus.”  Hilarious hijinks and heartwarming adventures abound, and viewers are sure to be glued to every minute of their (mis)adventures.  I’m not into Bollywood, but I loved 3 IdiotsYou will too.

So, anyway, I’m not really well versed with the styles and idiosyncrasies of our local Pinoy stars, so I can’t really add much to the question I posted for this blog.  But maybe I can vouch for three characters:

Rancho:  Luis Manzano.  The guy can look both deeply serious and impish at the drop of a hat, he’s perfect for the role.

Pia — Anne Curtis Whoever would play Pia’s character would need a whole lot of beauty and a whole lot of attitude.  Anne Curtis has both in spades.  She’s not too bad behind the mic, either.

Millimeter — Jovit Baldivino Well, um, he’s not that tall.  He’s got average looks.  But he’s got the name to make people want to see the movie.  Oh, and if he would really play the role, he most definitely must have a larger cut in the songs.  His voice is fantastic.

I can’t think of the others.  But I’m sure you can.  So,  what if there was a Filipino (Pinoy) version of 3 Idiots?  Who would play who?  Looking forward to your responses.

A Halloween constume that disturbed me, but admittedly made me chuckle.

Remember, dads, our kids hero worship us and consider us their heroes.  We should do our utmost to be models and mentors to our children, positively influencing them to be great adults themselves one day.

Then I see this Halloween costume that disturbed me, but admittedly made me chuckle.

What in the world was he smokin’ (pun intended) when he thought of this getup for him and his son?  I saw this on Facebook and most of the comments were praising the dad for his creativity and…well, the over-all cuteness of it.

I was not pleased. 

Our kids are like marble, and we, dads, are like artists armed with hammer and chisel.  We could either make a masterpiece, or make a mess.

Sure, this is really creative or really cute…and you may think I’m overreacting; but please know that children copy what we do, they’ll love what we love, they’ll think the way we think.  Our influence is that great.

And another thing…if we do some naughty things behind their backs, they’re also bound to find out:

Happy Halloween everyone.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

In regards to your parenting style, balance discipline with love

Here’s one lesson that struck me recently, during one of our parenting studies, in regards to disciplining our children.  It goes something like this:

a. Discipline without love leads to REBELLION.  
b. Love without discipline leads to ANARCHY.  

Regarding Filipino families’ parenting style, we seem to err on the first one, discipline without love.  Many Filipino parents, those I’ve seen anyway, seem very autocratic, and raise their kids by what I called the PBA method (Parenting By Anger).  I see it all the time, Pinoy parents tend to shout, yell out vicious threats, spank out of anger.  

When we discussed this part of the lesson with my young couples group, most of them confessed that they followed their parents out of fear, not out of love and respect.  They talked about the threats, the negative reinforcement (constant correction, rarely any praise), not being allowed to reason with them because they weren’t allowed to talk back, and the little emotional connection they had with their parents.

It proved quite detrimental.  Some of them harbor feelings of resentment to this day.  There was also talk about rebellion at the first sign of freedom, such as college.  Some young people I know swear that once they leave home for college, they’ll follow the same route.  The values of parents were never internalized, all they know is the discipline…but it’s hard to discipline if there’s no good relationship.

Now, I grew up in America, and King Edward VIII has been famously quoted to say this about the parenting style of its locals: 

“The thing that impresses me the most about America is the way parents obey their children.”  

I’m sure he said that in jest, but still, I guess you can say that many American parents tend to err on the second one, love without discipline leads to anarchy.  Do you agree? 

Growing up, I remember being a bit bitter towards my parents for being a lot stricter than the parents of my friends.  They (my friends) seem to be allowed to party all the time, allowed to have really late curfews (or curfews don’t exist), had credit cards free for the charging, and basically just had much less restraint and much more freedom than I had.  

Furthermore, an article I read had this to say about today’s American fathers:

“… the image of the perfect American father, 2011-style, seems fuzzier than ever. The classic pop-culture archetypes — silver-templed sages in cardigan sweaters (Ward Cleaver, Cliff Huxtable) — seem as outmoded as rabbit ears in an era where fathers would rather act like their children’s best friend than square-jawed authority figures. 

“Today’s Generations X and Y dads are closer in spirit to Will Arnett in the new NBC situation comedy ‘Up All Night’— potty-mouthed guys in pocket T-shirts and stubble…Overgrown boys themselves, they may not feel ready for the responsibilities of co-parenting, but they feel obligated to fake it mightily.” 

That scares me, because I feel that children do need authority figures; they need guidance; and they have to get all that from the home.  But if “square-jawed authority figures” in parents, especially in fathers, has become passé, the kids will grow up having a real hard time respecting any authority, be it school authority, or government authority, etc.

“Sow a thought, reap an act.  
 Sow an act, reap a habit.  
 Sow a habit, reap a character.  
 Sow a character, reap a destiny.”

The right type of parenting should be a healthy mix of both love and discipline. 

Hebrews 12:6 – “For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whom He receives.”

Parents should be authoritative, but not authoritarian.  Meaning, parents have, and show, real authority at home, but do so through positively influencing their kids…especially by means of modeling and mentoring.  

For parents who err towards the first point, remember that trying to discipline your kids without a good relationship will bring about much more frustration that you’d like.  We can only earn the right to discipline them when they feel loved.

When my kids and I really tight in the tribe, disciplinary action is easy and painless.  When I get into negligent parent mode (which happens, occasionally) and I try to correct them, it’s not as effective.

For parents who err towards the second, it’s great that you want to be friends with your kids, but it’s more important that you be their authority figure, their parents.  Disciplining your child is one of the most important parenting jobs there is.

Hebrews 12:7 – It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 

Proverbs 13:24 – He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently. 

I truly hope this article helped.  To get our parenting style on the right track, we truly need to balance discipline with love.  Speaking of love, I’d love to hear your comments.  Oh, and I would consider it an honor if you subscribe to my site as well (see right margin).  

Oh, and here’s a list of good parenting-related books for dads to read.  They can help immensely.

Monday, October 24, 2011

How Pilipinas Got Talent Season 3 SHOULD’VE ended.

A big congrats to Maansinhon Trio for winning Pilipinas Got Talent season 3.  Without a doubt, this nation makes some of the greatest singers on the planet.

However, Pilipinas Got Talent is not only a singing contest, and, personally, when I watch the show I look for unique talents, not just singing.  That’s why I was rooting for Ruther Urquia and his puppet Titoy during the first season of PGT (I didn’t see season 2, unfortunately). 

If you were reading my previous blog, I was also rooting for the non-singer in this contest, El Gamma Penumbra.  They ended up 4th place, as you can see by the opinion results below:

1. Maasinhon Trio
2. Khalil Ramos
3. Bringas Brothers
4. El Gamma Penumbra
5. Synergy
6. Sandugo Band
7. Twin Divas
8. Renagine Pepito
9. Loverkada Kids
10. Muriel Lomadilla
11. Kiriko
12. Lucky Twins

I did not agree with the results, but this is what the nation feels, so what can I do?  If you ask me, here’s how the top 3 of Pilipinas Got Talent should’ve been.

1.  El Gamma Penumbra.  As I said, my pick, especially after watching their awesome performance on the Grand Finals night.  Their final piece reeked of Pinoy pride, and I hope the Department of Tourism will get these guys and put them to good use ASAP.

2.  Muriel Lomadilla.  Yeah, she’s a singer, and her voice was amazing during the duration of the contest.  Her final performance, in particular, was fantastic.  She comes from a family of great singers, in case you didn’t know.  Her cousin is a friend of ours…and is a tremendous singer in her own right.

3.  Renagine Pepito.  Ok, I’m biased on this one, because she’s from my hometown, Cagayan de Oro City.  But, seriously, how many 11 year olds do you know can sing like that?  Her final piece was a bit of a let-down because it’s unfamiliar to most people and it didn’t showcase her vocal prowess as it should’ve.  Her semi-final number was better, and after she performed it, I thought in my heart that she’d not only be in the finals, but she’d be the one to beat, if not the dark horse of the contest.

Special mention goes to Synergy.  They were also a very colorful and entertaining group and my 2nd favorite non-singing entry in the contest. 

The other groups were also good, and worthy to be on the final stage of this country’s most popular talent show…but these 4 contestants were the strongest in my opinion.  Oh, and Loverkada Kids?  Man, their performances were too scary to watch sometimes, especially when they swing that kid around.  Yikes!!

Hmmm…what were your pics for the PGT3 plum?  Do you agree with me?  Comments are welcome!

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Sunday, October 23, 2011

My favorite of the Pilipinas Got Talent season 3 grand finals…El Gamma Penumbra

The Grand Finals of Pilipinas Got Talent is going on as I type this.  Whatever happens, all 12 Pinoy acts are awesome, and they deserve to go as far as the moon with their amazing gifts.

I have my pick, my favorite, out of the twelve.  It’s El Gamma Penumbra.  They are truly fantastic, and their final piece for the show reeked of Pinoy pride.  See for yourself.

(UPDATE:  It seems like the video below may have been banned, by youtube, to show worldwide.  Goshdarnit! It’s all good, if you can’t see it here, you can see it on my facebook pageAnd, well, like my page while you’re at it.) 

Good luck to everyone, but especially so to El Gamma Penumbra.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

God’s trials in your life = mmmm, adobo!

Raw meat tastes gross. Garlic tastes nasty by itself. So does suka. So does toyo. I’m sure you can’t put pepper corns or bay leaves in your mouth and smile.

But if you put them all together in the hands of a master chef…mmmm, adobo.

That’s the way you should look at the trials that God puts in your life. Each one may be very unpleasant by itself, but leave them in the hands of the Master, and you’ll get something great in the end.

Just something I learned today in my young couples group.  Cheers!

—  Lessons Of A Dad

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Casting Crowns’ new album, Come To The Well is out…read this great review on it.

Casting Crowns’ hot new album

I’ve posted many Casting Crowns videos on my blog, and for good reason.  They are among the best CCM bands out there, with some of my favorite hits of theirs being, Who Am I?, Voice of Truth, American Dream (which figures prominently on this blog), Life of Praise (probably my all-time favorite youth worship song)…and now, Courageous which I featured on a previous blog entry and which headlines the fatherhood-themed movie of the same name.

Well, Casting Crowns’ highly anticipated album that features the song, Courageous is newly out in stores.  It’s called Come To The Well, and according to this review, it is one great album (rated 4.5 out 5).  Hey, it’s no surprise, because Casting Crowns is one great band, winning several GMA Dove Awards and a Grammy Award  to boot. 

So, Casting Crowns’ new album, Come To The Well is out…read this great review on it.
If you live in the states, buy it today!  I’ll have to wait a little longer over here in the Philippines.  Oh well, good things are worth waiting.


Here’s a post in the site that I guest blog in.  It’s called OMG and you may appreciate it if you’re a Christian who uses this phrase often.  

Click here and enjoy…and don’t get mad at me if you somehow get a guilt trip.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Only 18 & 12 slots remain for THE STORY OF US couples retreat, one of the best events to enhance your marriage and family life

If there’s anything that CCF-Cagayan de Oro, the community I belong to, does excellently, it’s their strong advocacy in enhancing marriage and family life (which includes development of the youth and single professionals as well). 

I blog often about our parenting seminars and study series, but we also have almost yearly marriage seminars as well.  Occasionally, like every few years or so, we throw in a couples retreat that enables married couples to get away for a weekend to enhance their union.

This year is one of those years, and so here’s THE STORY OF US, a weekend getaway in the beautiful Dahilayan, Bukidnon. 

I first blogged about this great marriage retreat in this article, and I’ll say the same thing here:  whether your marriage is rock solid or is on shaky ground, attending events like THE STORY OF US is very highly recommended.  You’ll learn principles on communication, commitment, and so much more. 

CCF’s marriage and parenting events (CDO or otherwise) are known for having excellent speakers and content, and therefore garner large draws.  THE STORY OF US will not be any different.  Knowing this, we’re having the event twice, November 5 & 6 and December 3 & 4, with room for only 41 couples per event.

As of the last time I inquired, there’s only room for 18 more couples in the November couples retreat, and only 12 couples in the December couples retreat…and these slots may go fast. 

If you would like to join one of the best events to enhance marriage and family life, do yourself and your spouse a favor, and attend THE STORY OF US.  It’s a weekend marriage retreat you won’t forget. 

For details, you can click on the picture on this blog.  You can also contact:

Christ’s Commission Fellowship – Cagayan de Oro
Papa Juanito’s Square, Limketkai Drive
857-3000 (PLDT/Philcom)
09175976574 (globe)
09228223236 (sun)
09209386766 (smart) 

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Excuse me while I geek out over the new Avengers official movie trailer

Just like what the title says: excuse me while I geek out over the new Avengers official movie trailer.  Here it is below:

AAAAARRRRRRRAAAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!! (That’s me geeking out) Summer 2012 is going to be comic book movie heaven, and this will be top on my list for must see movies. The Avengers movie trailer makes me wish that time travel was possible.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Casting Crowns lead singer, Mark Hall talks about their new song, Courageous.

I heard that Courageous did very well in its opening weekend.  According to the FB wall of one of pages I’m a fan of, the opening weekend of Courageous looked like this:

1) More than 1 million people saw COURAGEOUS this weekend. That’s a lot of lives changed!

2) Total box-office was $9.0 million, $2.2 million more than Fireproof on opening weekend.

3) It was the #1 new movie of the weekend! Per-screen, COURAGEOUS averaged $7,752, almost doubling everyone else!

Wow, well done.  Now, I really can’t wait until I see that movie on Philippine shores. 

What makes me even more excited is that one of my favorite Christian bands, Casting Crowns (known most for, “Who Am I?”), did the theme song for the movie, titled (what else?) Courageous. 

The band’s lead singer and songwriter, Mark Hall, talks about the meaning behind this wonderful song.  He’s a pretty funny guy, yet this video short hits home.

Now, I’m proud to present the official video of Courageous.  Enjoy!

I truly can’t wait to see this movie.  For those of you who have already seen it, and would like to mentor others on the principles featured in it, I suggest you purchase the Courageous Campaign Kit .  It has clips from the movie and a good study guide to mentor the dads in your life to raise their kids in a Godly way.

Casting Crowns also placed out a parenting-based song a while back, and I featured it in one of my articles for Father’s Day.  Check out the article here, while I repost the video below.

Anyway, thank you Mark Hall and Casting Crowns, for making a great movie even greater, thanks to your song, Courageous.

Monday, October 10, 2011

Funny Facebook status messages (spelling FAIL). This is funny stuff.

The teacher in me is sometimes compelled to correct my students’ Facebook message spelling errors.  I’m sure they get irked sometimes, but I can’t let them get away with common Filipino mistakes like confusing “his” and “her” (the Filipino counterpart has no gender); you’re vs. your; their vs. there vs. they’re; and so on.

However, if the following funny Facebook status messages (spelling FAIL, actually) were done by any of my students, I don’t know if I’d fail them on the spot, or I would perform hara-kiri.  Any way you look at it, it’s funny stuff…unless you’re their English teacher.

Let’s hope I don’t see any of my students, or any of my readers for that matter, make unintentionally funny Facebook status messages like these.

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